Think back to a time in your life when you had the greatest-ever aspiration to do or become something. You could hardly think of anything else. Your heart and mind were positive this new pursuit would be your ultimate fulfillment! This desire was so all consuming, it’s all you could think about, read about and talk about! You couldn’t wait to share your joy with those closest to you.
Now think back to a time in your life when you enthusiastically shared this news with someone important to you and with a pair of folded arms and one raised eyebrow, that person rebuffed your glorious dream. How did it feel? Were you crushed? Were you sad? Did it make you feel stupid and small? And worse, did it cause you do rethink or even abandon your dream?
More often than not lately, I’ve been witnessing the eye rolls, raised eyebrows, folded arms, sideways glances and the audible “Hmphs” from people who seem to get a thrill out of doubting, then scoffing at another person’s dreams.
Frankly, my first reaction is hurt. My second reaction is anger. My third reaction is frustration. Who do we think we are sitting in judgement of another person’s dreams and ambitions? Why do we often think we are have the right to be self appointed authorities on what others aspire to have or be?
I’ll never forget going into my first Academic Adviser appointment as a college Freshman. I was nervous, but excited to talk about what steps to take to realize my dream of becoming a professional journalist. She looked through my records for exactly two minutes, then looked at me and smugly said, “You can’t do that. Your grades in English aren’t good. Journalism is the hardest field to get into. You will never ever be a journalist. Pick something else.”
(Never mind that I’ve written from my heart since the age of eleven.) She didn’t even ask me why I wanted to pursue this and worse, she dismissed any question I had with regard to my dream. I walked out of that office heart-sick and with a suggested course schedule that included only one basic English course.
I wish I could say that I didn’t listen to her advice but I did. I floundered during the first years of college for many reasons, but having this rug pulled out from me confused me so much, I didn’t know what I was supposed to be striving for. In fact, I was so embarrassed by my dream and her reaction to it, that I never mentioned it again to anyone. I didn’t even tell my parents what she’d said. I didn’t want to risk being made fun of again.
Five hundred years later at age fifty, here I sit. I may not be the world’s greatest writer, but I know my written words have touched countless people. I often wonder what life might have been like had that woman embraced my dream of being a journalist and tried to help me formulate a plan over what she actually did, which was steer a young, impressionable girl in a very wrong direction.
I know there are those who will say that the greatest thinkers and doers in the world were all surrounded by doubters once upon a time and that they persevered and succeeded any way. In fact, there are those who succeeded in order to prove the doubters wrong. I get that. It’s not really what my point is here, however.
My point is that life is hard enough. We shouldn’t be sitting in judgement of another person’s hopes and dreams and aspirations. I believe it’s actually sinful to dampen another person’s spirit with unspoken, yet very demonstrative judgement.
I just have to wonder how different this world might be if we choose to encourage one another’s dreams over anything else. What if it were law to cultivate the spirit of compassion and to foster support for one another?
Oh wait. I think it sort of is!
“Therefore whatever you desire for men to do to you, you shall also do to them; for this is the law and the prophets.”
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”
An Angel Reminder: You can’t do that!
Let’s say someone starts to write a screenplay, gets very excited, and shares the enthusiasm with a friend. This person informs them that at least 43,000 scripts are registered each year and maybe eight get made, and besides, who are they to think that they can write a good script? What a waste of time! This is an example of the crime of dream stealing. In certain native cultures, one of the worst offenses is dream stealing, which is punishable by banishment from your tribe. Many of us have had the water of our dreams poisoned so often we may unconsciously do it to others. The angels drop their heads when they hear a dream stolen. So what if someone’s script never gets picked up and the writer doesn’t make a dime? Simply following through on the dream spells success in the eyes of the angels, and many blessing will follow.
The angels remind us that enthusiasm comes from the Greek, “en-theos”: to be filled with God. Let the dreamers dream!
Next time someone comes to you with their heartfelt dream, listen and bless them without judgement or comment. We too often listen to ideas in the context of how much money they will make or cost and how realistic they are. You never know, the eccentric friend telling you of the spaceship they are designing may surprise us all and end up saving the world. If you are cutting short someone’s enthusiasm, think about how you are taking God out of their life.
An Angelic Reflection: I welcome enthusiasm as divine inspiration, and I am careful not to burst anyone’s bubble.
Angel Courage by: Terry Lynn Taylor and Mary Beth Crain, © 1999, Harper Collins
From the Angels
Freedom: The angels guide you to freely express your true thoughts and feelings with love.
You may feel trapped right now by life conditions. By drawing this card, the angels ask you to realize that you are the only jail keeper that ever surfaces in your own life. Whenever you realize that you have the power to be free, freedom follows. Everything that you do in your life is by choice, and you are free to choose again. Even prisoners are free to choose their thoughts so that they feel peace and happiness under any conditions.
The next time you begin a sentence with the words, “I have to ______,” please stop. Ask God and the angels to show you some alternatives. They will either help you complete the task from a loving mind-set so that you don’t feel trapped, or they will guide you to do something else that you will love.
Divine Timing: Pay attention to doors that are opening and shutting for you right now. Walk through doors that open, and learn from the doors that shut.
Your prayers are being answered; there is no doubt about that. However, everything operates according to the Universal Laws of Divine Timing. This means that certain pieces of the puzzle must first fall into place so that other parts can come to fruition. If you try to skip or rush certain pieces or parts, the whole plan will lack a solid foundation.
Don’t try to force open any doors that appear closed to you. Instead, ask your angels for guidance to see if the door closed because of negative expectations, or if it’s simply a sign of Divine Timing. Look for other doors that do open, and walk through them with faith and gratitude.
Serenity: You are moving into a time of greater inner peace and tranquility.
Peace of mind means feeling secure, and knowing that you’re always provided for. Even if your logical mind cannot fathom how a challenge could be resolved, peace of mind means that you trust that God will create a miraculous solution. This sort of faith is always warranted because faith is a key component in experiencing such miracles.
By drawing this card, the angels reassure you that peace of mind is within you. You can feel serene, even in the midst of great turmoil. It’s a mistake to think that you have to wait until your life is problem free before you can be happy and peaceful. The opposite is actually true. First, you work toward serenity, and then your life challenges lessen and disappear. Serenity is your natural state of mind, and the angels are now working with you to actualize this.
Dreams: Pay attention to your dreams right now. Keep a dream journal.
You are receiving important messages during your dreams. Sometimes you may wake up with the feeling that you have traveled or received instruction during your sleep. You wonder, Why can’t I remember my dreams? The messages and experiences of your dreams are never truly lost or forgotten. They are, instead, incorporated into your unconscious so that your higher self’s wisdom and love govern your actions.
You can more easily remember your dreams by writing whatever you recall immediately upon awakening. Just write any little bit you can remember, and the rest of the dream will unravel in your memory. Review your dream journal often, and look for patterns and themes. These recurrent dream issues signify messages that your higher self and the angels are trying to tell you.
Lord, we know what peace is. Peace is a mother
tenderly holding her child. Peace is a firm
handshake of trust between friends. Peace is
complete emotional security. Peace is living
unencumbered with a full sense of joy. Peace
is expressing Thanksgiving for concrete blessings.
For the peace gained from the love and memory
of spouses and children, we thank you ..
For the peace gained from the love and memory
of parents and grandparents, we thank you ..
For the peace gained from the kindness and
support of friends, we thank you ..
For the peace gained when the music of the
Gods is sung, we thank you ..
Peace is elusive. There are raging storms
in every life. Tragedy, grief, and pain will
visit everyone. Yet, each person’s life is
graced by moments and periods of
real happiness. For these episodes of
peace and joy .. past, present, & future,
we offer our deepest gratitude.
Help us to understand that peace must
be waged. We must resist the gun, the
bomb, “realistic politics,” unkind words,
personal betrayals, anger, depression,
despair, and rage. Give us the strength
to overcome these demons. Help us
maintain personal power within ourselves,
so we can pass this liberating power to others.
Give hope and courage to all who struggle
with debilitating illness, grief, and loneliness.
Help them to understand .. ALL chains WILL
SURSUM CORDA! Lift up your hearts!
QUI POTENS EST! God is great!